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Losing a loved one can be difficult and going to the wake at a funeral home can make the situation even more difficult if you do not know what to expect. There is a certain etiquette that should be followed when going to a funeral home for a wake. The following guide provides you with everything you need to know about having proper etiquette at the first wake you attend.

Wear the Proper Attire

When you go to a wake, you need to be sure that you are not wearing clothes that fit too tightly or are too low cut. People often choose to wear black because it has been viewed as the color of mourning for many centuries. A dress, suit, or even slacks can be worn to a wake to show that you respect the person who passed away enough to dress nicely to their wake.

Do Not Bring in Food or Drink

Food and drink should not be brought into the funeral home. Some wakes have light finger foods, water, or coffee for guests to enjoy after the actual wake ceremony has finished.

Speak to the Widow or Widower

The widow or widower who recently lost their spouse is more than likely in a horrible state of grieving. Speaking to him or her when you come to the wake shows that you feel for them. Be sure to let him or her know that you are available if they need any help.

Bring Cash with You

At some wakes, a collection is taken to help the family pay for the funeral costs. Bringing cash with you to the wake allows you to be able to easily contribute to the costs.

Turn Your Phone to Silent

When you go to the wake, you will sit through someone reading a eulogy about the person who has passed away. Your phone needs to be set to silent so that you do not interrupt the wake.

Having proper etiquette when you go to a wake is important because you want to show reverence and respect for the person that has passed away. Wakes are a time when you can say your final goodbyes to your loved one and remember their life with other people who loved them. It is a sacred time that should be treasured and valued. While you may be emotionally distraught, being reverent and respectful is important at a wake.